“I love your new haircut!” “Thanks, I wish it were a little longer.” “Great job on that event last week.” “You think? It felt like such a mess!” I've heard friends shut down and push aside compliments so many times, like arrows bouncing off a shield. It's frustrating! Instead of letting praise sink in, we... Continue Reading →
Best friend forever (plural: best friends forever): A person who is an especially close and trusted friend over a long time period. other definitions: 1) Used by someone to make you feel special, when really they have 50 best friends. 2) Used to obtain food, emotional support, financial support etc... 3) Used to sustain genuine strong friendships. “You are... Continue Reading →
There was a young man, that I met with through mutual friends in college who has been asking me out. I considered him an acquaintance — an acquaintance I had become increasingly unfond of. He has asked me out to lunch/dinner, and it has not been easy to say no. He asks things like, are... Continue Reading →
He was 15 when his Hungarian parents thought it would be best for him to come to live in the UK with another family. His parents were refugees in …Mental – I – zation
If you're interested in working long hours using outdated technology while being micromanaged by a nut job, the job's is yours If only every interviewer would be as honest as this one! At least you'd walk into work expecting chaos. Probably the most accurate advice from the Horrible Bosses movie was: Nick Hendricks:"Quick story, my... Continue Reading →
Depression is a serious mental illness that can interfere with a person's life. It can cause long-lasting and severe feelings of sadness, hopelessness, and a loss of interest in activities. It can also cause physical symptoms of pain, appetite changes, and sleep problems. "I was in so much pain that I really didn't want to... Continue Reading →
Choosing to bring a new canine companion into your life is an exciting but involved decision-making process, especially when deciding where to get one. You might have concerns about “puppy mills” or “backyard breeders,” and want to know how to steer clear of them. Perhaps you don’t even know what these are and need more... Continue Reading →
In 1931, historian James Adams first publicly defined the American Dream. Adams' often-repeated quote is, "The American Dream is that dream of a land in which life should be better and richer and fuller for everyone, with opportunity for each according to ability or achievement. It is not a dream of motor cars and high wages... Continue Reading →
Harry eases into his couch with a bag of Bertie Bott's Every Flavour Beans after a long day of Quidditch practice. He opens his diary and starts to scribble to himself. What does it mean to be nice and likable? Have you really thought about where these concepts of 'good' and 'evil' came from? "We've... Continue Reading →
All of us know the impact our parents have on us. More often than not, their needs become our needs, their insecurities become our insecurities and their baggage becomes our baggage. In this whirlwind of emotions, it is easy to forget that parents themselves have learned these behaviors and are empathic human beings who may be willing to unlearn it for the sake of their children.
Recently I have met a Professor of Psychotherapy, a Consultant Psychiatrist and a GP – all parents of children lost to mental illnesses. Here’s what one mum says:
“Whenever I have seen a therapist, they have gone straight to my childhood, my up-bringing, my parents and their parents. All my behaviours and feelings seem to be explained and understood based on their behaviours, however ‘normal’, for their times. I am encouraged to think of all the ways in which they could have directly or indirectly damaged me.
By that principle, all of my child’s behaviours and feelings should be explained and understood based on the behaviours of his parents. Half of them is me. I agree. I must be part of the problem. My profession is perceived as a bigger problem. ‘High achieving Asian’ parents are assumed to put a lot of pressure on their children. So much so, the…
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