Best friend forever (plural: best friends forever): A person who is an especially close and trusted friend over a long time period. other definitions: 1) Used by someone to make you feel special, when really they have 50 best friends. 2) Used to obtain food, emotional support, financial support etc... 3) Used to sustain genuine strong friendships. “You are... Continue Reading →
There was a young man, that I met with through mutual friends in college who has been asking me out. I considered him an acquaintance — an acquaintance I had become increasingly unfond of. He has asked me out to lunch/dinner, and it has not been easy to say no. He asks things like, are... Continue Reading →
He was 15 when his Hungarian parents thought it would be best for him to come to live in the UK with another family. His parents were refugees in …Mental – I – zation
Choosing to bring a new canine companion into your life is an exciting but involved decision-making process, especially when deciding where to get one. You might have concerns about “puppy mills” or “backyard breeders,” and want to know how to steer clear of them. Perhaps you don’t even know what these are and need more... Continue Reading →
In 1931, historian James Adams first publicly defined the American Dream. Adams' often-repeated quote is, "The American Dream is that dream of a land in which life should be better and richer and fuller for everyone, with opportunity for each according to ability or achievement. It is not a dream of motor cars and high wages... Continue Reading →
Harry eases into his couch with a bag of Bertie Bott's Every Flavour Beans after a long day of Quidditch practice. He opens his diary and starts to scribble to himself. What does it mean to be nice and likable? Have you really thought about where these concepts of 'good' and 'evil' came from? "We've... Continue Reading →
With the Avengers Endgame smashing movie records, its fans are overwhelmed by the awesomeness of it all. Amidst my adoration for characters and my feelings of gloom around the end of an era, I can't help but feel a little disappointed. The word 'too much' keeps coming to mind. Too much death. Too much sadness.... Continue Reading →
Baby, come-a back-a, come a-back, come-a back To the lips a wanna kiss you! Baby, come-a back-a, come a-back, come-a back To the heart that learned to miss you! You never shoulda gone away, You never shoulda gone away. - 'Baby Come-A Back-A' by The Chordettes. Have any of you seen Marvelous Mrs. Maisel? The... Continue Reading →
All of us know the impact our parents have on us. More often than not, their needs become our needs, their insecurities become our insecurities and their baggage becomes our baggage. In this whirlwind of emotions, it is easy to forget that parents themselves have learned these behaviors and are empathic human beings who may be willing to unlearn it for the sake of their children.
Recently I have met a Professor of Psychotherapy, a Consultant Psychiatrist and a GP – all parents of children lost to mental illnesses. Here’s what one mum says:
“Whenever I have seen a therapist, they have gone straight to my childhood, my up-bringing, my parents and their parents. All my behaviours and feelings seem to be explained and understood based on their behaviours, however ‘normal’, for their times. I am encouraged to think of all the ways in which they could have directly or indirectly damaged me.
By that principle, all of my child’s behaviours and feelings should be explained and understood based on the behaviours of his parents. Half of them is me. I agree. I must be part of the problem. My profession is perceived as a bigger problem. ‘High achieving Asian’ parents are assumed to put a lot of pressure on their children. So much so, the…
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I think I want to be a therapist. Because: I want to work with people, but in a way that I feel involved with their lives. I want to have a personal relationship with my clients. I want to work with them in a way that touches their lives. I remember when I was a really small... Continue Reading →