In 1931, historian James Adams first publicly defined the American Dream. Adams' often-repeated quote is, "The American Dream is that dream of a land in which life should be better and richer and fuller for everyone, with opportunity for each according to ability or achievement. It is not a dream of motor cars and high wages... Continue Reading →
Baby, come-a back-a, come a-back, come-a back To the lips a wanna kiss you! Baby, come-a back-a, come a-back, come-a back To the heart that learned to miss you! You never shoulda gone away, You never shoulda gone away. - 'Baby Come-A Back-A' by The Chordettes. Have any of you seen Marvelous Mrs. Maisel? The... Continue Reading →
All of us know the impact our parents have on us. More often than not, their needs become our needs, their insecurities become our insecurities and their baggage becomes our baggage. In this whirlwind of emotions, it is easy to forget that parents themselves have learned these behaviors and are empathic human beings who may be willing to unlearn it for the sake of their children.
Recently I have met a Professor of Psychotherapy, a Consultant Psychiatrist and a GP – all parents of children lost to mental illnesses. Here’s what one mum says:
“Whenever I have seen a therapist, they have gone straight to my childhood, my up-bringing, my parents and their parents. All my behaviours and feelings seem to be explained and understood based on their behaviours, however ‘normal’, for their times. I am encouraged to think of all the ways in which they could have directly or indirectly damaged me.
By that principle, all of my child’s behaviours and feelings should be explained and understood based on the behaviours of his parents. Half of them is me. I agree. I must be part of the problem. My profession is perceived as a bigger problem. ‘High achieving Asian’ parents are assumed to put a lot of pressure on their children. So much so, the…
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I did not plan on writing this post. I'm not going to edit it. I'm not going to design it. I'm going to write because I need to- I'd hate myself if I didn't. This is not a movie review. I do not write movie reviews. Please don't read the post if you haven't seen... Continue Reading →
"You should come visit" -NJ Me -"I'd love to but I'm so stressed right now. Plus I'm traveling to India!" "You should totally come visit" -NJ (after a few weeks) Me -"Uh, I don't know.. I have end sems and I'm traveling to my parents for vacation :/" "Dude! You need to come visit" -... Continue Reading →